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Quotes "If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow."
"An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything." Lynn Johnston "A man convinced against his will…is not convinced." Laurence J. Peter "The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them." Ralph Nichols "It is with the heart that one sees rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye." Antoine de Saint-Exupéry "What we see depends mainly on what we look for." Sir John Lubbock "Nothing changes more consistently than the past; the past that influences our lives is not what objectively happened, but what we believe happened." Gerald W. Johnson "Having a good discussion is like having riches." Kenyan proverb "Before you speak, ask yourself: Is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence?" Shirdi Sai Baba "Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it stands than to anything on which it is poured." Gandhi "A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while he gets to know something." Wilson Mizner "When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge." Tuli Kupferberg "Life is ten percent what happens to me and ninety percent how I react to it." Charles Swindoll "Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; argument an exchange of emotion." Robert Quillen "People who fight fire with fire usually end up with ashes." Abigail VanBuren "If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow." Carol Tavris "An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything." Lynn Johnston "If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each person’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility." Longfellow "The argument culture urges us to approach the world—and the people in it—in an adversarial frame of mind. It rests on the assumption that opposition is the best way to get anything done: Conflict and opposition are as necessary as cooperation and agreement, but the scale is off balance, with conflict and opposition over-weighted." Deborah Tannen "Whenever you see darkness, there is extraordinary opportunity for the light to burn brighter." Bono "Words can destroy. What we call each other ultimately becomes what we think of each other, and it matters." Jean Kirkpatrick "The courts of this country should not be the places where resolution of disputes begins. They should be the places where the disputes end after alternative methods of resolving disputes have been considered and tried." Justice Sandra Day O’Connor "Don’t find fault. Find a remedy." Henry Ford "We don’t see things as they are. We see things as we are." Anais Nin "Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk." Doug Larson "You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist." Indira Gandhi "Seek first to understand, then to be understood. This principle is the key to effective interpersonal communication." Stephen Covey "My problem is I say what I’m thinking before I think what I’m saying." Laurence J. Peter "Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional." Max Lucade "Behind the cloud the sun is still shining." Abraham Lincoln "Why not go out on a limb? Isn’t that where the fruit is?" Frank Scully "If you understood everything I said, you’d be me." Miles Davis "Our task is not to fix blame for the past, but to fix the course for the future." John F. Kennedy "Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die." Carrie Fisher
"Creativity comes from a conflict of ideas." Donatella Versace "Never ruin an apology with an excuse." Kimberly Johnson "To truly listen is to risk being changed forever." Sakej Henderson "Listening is not waiting to talk." Scott Ginsberg "If passion drives you, let reason hold the reins." Benjamin Franklin "Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." Paul Boese "Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret." Ambrose Bierce “If we manage conflict constructively, we harness its energy for creativity and development.” Kenneth Kaye “Traditional litigation is a mistake that must be corrected. For some disputes trials will be the only means, but for many claims, trials by adversarial contest must in time go the way of the ancient trial by battle and blood. Our system is too costly, too painful, too destructive, and to inefficient for really civilized people.” Supreme Court Justice Warren
“Mediation and reconciliation work is about exploring and rediscovering the human spirit that has been lost or shattered through human conflict.” Hizkias
"When mediation is mastered, the mind is unwavering like the flame of a lamp in a windless place." “Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict.” Dorothy Thompson
TIPS
1. Once you and your spouse have decided to divorce, tell your children before you tell other family or friends. Second hand is no way for them to find out. 2. After divorce, your credit score will become even more important. Do everything you can to keep it high. 3. If you are planning to get a divorce, don't start by draining all the bank accounts. Hostilities will skyrocket and you have little or nothing to gain. 4. When you decide to get divorced, see a mediator before going to attorneys. Why start the process in an adversarial way?
"Mediation is the facilitation of negotiation". Norman R. Page
"The courts of this country should not be the places where resolution of disputes begins. They should be the places where the disputes end after alternative methods of resolving disputes have been considered and tried." Justice Sandra Day O’Connor Carol Tavris |
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